We’ve all been rejected in some form or another. Some of us handle it better than others. Sometimes it is devastating and heartbreaking
and sometimes it just a “move on” moment.
Queens, I’ve been there.
It seems for most of my life I have felt the sting of rejection. I’ve been rejected by my Dad, clients, and
men, friends, etc …
Today, I want to discuss men. When a man rejects us our first instinct is to
throw ourselves on him. To do or say the
right things for him to want us or sometimes make him wish he never rejected us
in the first place. Don’t do this. He will never respect you.
Sometimes we feel that we need to explain our position. No, we don’t.
He heard how you felt the first, second and third time, if you gave him
a third time. The fact of the matter is,
he didn’t care.
Don’t go running back hoping that you can say it differently
to manipulate him back or to manipulate him into being the man you want. We all want to be loved, but let’s not
manipulate it.
Don’t tell yourself you need to go back for “closure”. Closure is overrated and once again an excuse
to try to manipulate him into feeling sorry for letting you go. Here’s the deal, when he blocked you on Facebook,
that was “closure”.
No matter how many times you try to connect with him there
will always be things left unsaid. Write
them in your journal. He doesn’t
care. He has moved on and so should
you. Take a minute, cry, feel the pain,
vent to your girlfriends, but only a minute.
Then pick yourself up, be glamorous, and do what you came to do.
Ladies, Queens, the Truth of the matter is, if a man wants
you in his life, you’re going to know. He’s going to be there front and center. There will be no guessing.
Remember, mixed signals = NO. Move on.
Saved By Grace ♥
Changed By Love
Cindy
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