Tuesday, December 24, 2013

A Very Merry Christmas 2013



What a wonderful time of the year.  A time of year full of activities with friends & family.   A time of year that is spent with special people in our lives.   

Christmas has always been my favorite time of the year. 

Growing up I was always busy with family, school & church activities, my favorite was always the Christmas program at church, of course back then it was the same every year.   Oh…and how about buying those cheesy gifts for the gift exchange at school.   And the fabulous 2 week Christmas vacation … and Snow, lots of snow.  We always had lots of snow.   One year I had the chicken pox during Christmas vaca and one year I had my tonsils removed. 

Christmas was very special. I remember some years I would wake of at 3am and sneak out to the living room to see if Santa had been there yet.   I always had everyone up by 6am if not 5am.  We would open our gifts and then head out to Grandma & Grandpa’s.  Grandma would have a huge Christmas breakfast for us.  Eggs, bacon, sausage, ham, biscuits & gravy, grapefruit, fresh squeezed orange juice and more. 

And then I had to grow up …

While my kids were here we followed the same tradition that I grew up with.   I would start decorating the house inside & out after Thanksgiving.  I would set a baking day and bake & make all kinds of cookies & candies.  Christmas cards would go out with the traditional Christmas Newsletter.  And at least one night of the Christmas season we would drive around and look at Christmas lights. On Christmas morning, sometimes at 3am, I would hear my babies sneak into the living room to see if Santa had been there yet.   The kids would wake me up early just as I did, we would open gifts and then head to Grandma & Grandpa’s for that yummy traditional breakfast.

And then Grandma had to go home …

Ok…I can handle this right … I can take over the traditional Christmas breakfast…So be it and the tradition was modified a bit.

And then my babies had to grow up …

It’s been 8 years since my youngest left home.   The first few years both of my kids lived in the area, so we carried on a modified version of the Christmas tradition.   

And then Grandpa had to go home …

O…geez…another hitch in the Christmas tradition that I held so dear to my heart.

And then life took both of the kids out of state.

It’s been 4 years since we’ve been together on Christmas.  

So…what does a single woman do on Christmas???  Good question.   One year I spent with a friend at his Mom’s house.  Very uncomfortable.  Apparently some families don’t like outsiders intruding on their traditions.  The last 2 years I spent alone, expecting company that didn’t show, ending up sad & disappointed, feeling like I didn’t matter, unimportant.

And then I had to begin a new tradition …

This year is different.  We have all heard it said that our happiness shouldn’t depend on anyone else.  Well, instead of waiting, hoping someone would notice me, hoping that someone would want to spend Christmas with me, I am beginning a new tradition.   I have reached out to some Pastors and asked if they know anyone that is alone of Christmas…I actually got a couple of responses!   I am going to pop by their homes, drop off a little gift, a hug and a prayer.  I just want to let them know that they are not alone on Christmas, they haven’t been overlooked or forgotten but that they do matter, they are important… they are important to me.

And when …

Life changes, kids grow up, families get smaller. Sometimes our traditions need to be modified and sometimes they die with our elders.   When life, things or people put a hitch in your giddy up … EMBRACE IT and make it even better than before!

Saved By Grace♥Changed By Love

♥Cindy♥

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