Why Is Everyone Against Me ?

Have you ever noticed that when you are running late, having a bad day or super busy is when people start getting in your way, on your nerves, or wanting more from you?  

 It never failed that when I was in a huge hurry I would get behind the slowest driver or someone that needed a price check at the register.   I was always blaming others.  “They” were doing this to me.

I have learned that it’s not the turtle driver that is making me late or the incompetent woman who failed to make sure that her new top had a price tag!  It was me!  I failed to allow the appropriate amount of time. 

I have learned to first ask God what, how can I do better. If I have done everything in my power, I then ask God why I am in this circumstance?  Am I here to help someone?  Am I here to learn something?  Are You protecting me from something I don’t see?

The enemy of our soul is out to conquer & divide and he loves to use the spirit of offense to do this.  The quicker we recognize that we are going into defense mode the sooner we can put him (enemy) under our feet. 

A couple of techniques that I use when someone triggers my defenses are:

1.            I rephrase the statement/question back to them. 

2.            I ask questions.

3.            Do not be argumentative

4.            Keep a teachable spirit

5.            It’s possible that I could be wrong

More often than not I am in agreement with what the person said, we just had a language barrier that needed to be worked through.

How many times have you either been hurt or hurt someone’s feelings unintentionally???  When we begin to feel hurt we need to be quick to remember that, whatever it was, was probably not meant to hurt us.  Remember it’s not always about us!  If/when we do feel hurt we need to address it quickly so that it does not manifest into something bigger.  Remember, the Bible teaches not to let the sun go down …

These are just a couple of examples of offenses, there are many more, we know, but the important thing to remember is this is one of the many tools the enemy uses to divide us.  Especially in marriages & families.  A great warrior prepares for battle long before the war, so let’s put on our Armor, be alert and shut down the attack before there are any causalities.

Let us not forget, as James said, ‘be quick to listen, and slow to speak’  …  James 1:19

Saved by Grace ♥ Changed by Love